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What can i do with my big fear of life?Do you have it?Sometimes fear brings me in panic loosing every lifehope
Can you offer any words of wisdom to help me get over my fear of life?
ive been very afraid of everything in my life. disease, pressure, faliure, women, rejection. and as a result i have not done much in my lifei recently turned down a invitation to travel to india because i was frightened of getting a disease and that the plane would crash. i rarely do anything anymore. im not sure if this is a pyschological problem because it doesnt have a severe afect on my daily life. any advice?
How should I stop my fear of dying from taking over my life ?
I fear a lot of things. Mostly death. It all started when I was in 5th grade now im in 7th. I fear that when I sleep some one will break in and shoot me or stab me. While im going to the bathroom i fear that someones behind the shower trying to kill me. I fear that people are trying to kill me. I run home from the bus stop because I think a car is going to run me down. In 5th grade september 11th i remember this date because this date is also when my aunt died in 2000 not from the twin tower thing anyway in 5th grade september 11th my grandfather began to die from Cancer. I never met him except once when I was 4. We were separated by states. The day I fond out i cried all night because I knew I would never ever really meet him. Then a month or so later all my fears began. Then last February 2008 he died and all my fears got worst. Could all my fears come from my own depression about my grandpa gimpy or could I just be a scared little child
Ladies...Has the fear of HPV (human papillomavirus) changed your sex life?
I think all women should be concerned about HPV. A recent study found that 27 45 % of women between the ages of 14 24 have this virus That should scare any woman who is sexually active. Men obviously can get the virus too, but it is far less dangerous for them. It is the greatest cause 70 % of cervical cancer and has been linked to other genital cancers and can only be contracted thru unprotected sex with Men Gives me reason to become celibate for life. Check out the link below. If you can't click on it, type it in exactly as it is....it is an interesting article.webmd.com sexual conditions HPV Genital Warts hpv virus information about human papillomavirus
Extreme irrational fear of suffocation/drowning is ruining my life?
I have been this way since I can remember. Yes I am in therapy, taking meds. etc. so please don't say it I cannot sleep facing my husband because his breathing near me would take up the O2. I know that it won't, but that doesn't alleviate it I hold my breath under tunnels in case they collapse. Like it would actually help I also hold my breath over bridges in case they fail. Like I said, these are irrational and consciously, I know this, but I cannot stop them. I panic If I am parked in traffic on a bridge. Scuba diving is out, I can't even snorkel without hyperventilating. I even tried out of the water and started hyperventilating . No masks, Painters, surgical etc. I cannot even stick my head under the covers. Yet I swim wonderfully, and can go underwater holding my breath. I think I may have learned to swim so well because of my fear. Either way, This is ruining my life. Yes, Ive tried hypnotherapy and psychotherapy, Any suggestions or help PLEASE? I can't see a different one. I'm stationed overseas on a small base. there is only one. There are a multitude of problems for her to help me overcome, and this ones low on the totem pole. I was just hoping someone had ideas.
Should i be in fear of my life?
i hadnt seen my fiance in about 6 months , anyways he flew in for the week from cali for buisness and when we were having sex he was choking me, not hard but still, is this normal, do all men do it to or is he trying to kill me hahahaha eh em ?we have great sex is this just him trying to be more 'freakly'?yes he was saying how much he missed my you know what, and how much he loved me
I am terrified of dying, and the fear of it is interferring with my life. What can i do?
I haven't always been like this, but every since my dad past away, i've been terrified of dying. I'm scared of how i will die. The thought won't get out of my head, Im terrified to leave my family behind, terrfied of how painful it wil lbe, terrified of when it's going tohappen.Oaky, i know that everyone dies, and i know that i WILL die someday. I know this. But i am still terrified. My friends and i went to the fair a few nights ago, and i couldnt even ride any rides because i was terrified they could break and i would die a horrible death. What can i do to get over this fear? Please dont laugh. I know i sound crazy. But after my dad died, i have been going through a lot.
Have a fear of being lonely and abandoned for the rest of my life ?
being 30 now, living alone on disability, isolated , cut off from society, alienated by people , having suffered abuse and hardship all my life , having missed out on everything in life relationships , education, qualifications , a life , friends all of it.diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and ptsd, offered only group therapy because theres no DBT or individual psychotherapy in my area.......living in a one bedroom flat owning nothing.prisoner inside my apartment everyday because i still struggle with rage and high anxiety . feeling jealous bitter of others , belittled and viewed as some pittiful charity case by society..a minor criminal record and obviously a psychiatric record..my lifes been hell incarnate , nothing has ever wotked out or gone right..my only goal is to leave england with a good paying computer job, but how ill achieve that at my late stage, at my disadvantages ill never no..im an older looking 30 now, theres no individual psychotherapy available but theyve offered group therapy , so i decided i might as well take what i can get..im scared and insecure though , because my mother whos 58 and cant get around like she used to wont always be by myside to reassure me......and when she passes ill be totally alone in the world..people are aloof with me outthere , and standoffish, like theres some stigma that follows me , maybe because of my rage outbursts of many years ago..ive torn the ligaments in my ankle in a sprain over a years ago, was told that will take time to heal.. its very weak..........doing physio right now.i have no one, iam a lone vagabond in life , a forgoten statistic it feels like..my goals are very far from me ie , the good paying computer job, the move abroad to a hot climate to emigrate from britain.i want to part of it herepeople in general treat like some desperate charity case whos about to die , someone to feel sorry for.everything has only gone wrong in my life and ive never had the life i want.plus all those who used to reach out to me on the internet have all rejected me and stopped reaching out to me because im scared to contact them through fear of rejection im to clingy, overbearing , act eager and desperate , crave intimacy to soon.....lach onto people.......get obsessive have severe low self worth etc..so ive driven most of my internet contacts away.
I have a morbid fear of sudden death and its ruling my life?
any ache twinge or pain i am convinced its going to kill me.how can i relax and change this train of thought.
Does anyone know how to get over the life long fear of ' rejection ' ? - im getting no decent answers to this
and how not to cause rejection ? & as a result being afraid to contact people ?these are my circumstances in general ive missed out all my life on happiness, goals, friendships, relationships, work, education, lifestyles..never achieved any of it because ive suffered such a miserable life of trauma, let downs, rejection, bullying physical and mental abuse, assaults, attacks, time in a psychiatric hospital, time in jail....a criminal record...a mental health record etc...today ive lived on my own since 2005 in a small messy flat without anybody....i have no social support network exceptt my mother and 1 internet friend.....my mother who is aging and cannot do the things she used to.i live on disability, i own nothing except a few books and an old dusty computer.because of the severe bullying and abuse i suffered i developed a rage and aggression problem....iam diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and ptsd..i used to have rage outbursts many times in crowded public places and lash out at strangers.....get confrontational.....stare at people act out of control aggressive..because of this sometimes i thought could i have intermittent explosive disorder ?but have accepted my bpd diagnoses, ive made lot of progress controling my aggression and outbursts for years now...and are waiting for an appointment for psychotherapy..for a while ive experienced bad anxiety, flashbacks, panic that keep my staying inside my apartment except when i need to go out..struggled with aggression because of unresolved anger of the past, severe bullying etc..paranoia that im being deliberatly alienated by people, ostracised and socially excluded.....like my lifes being opressed and controlled..im not sure how the paranoia started but ive had it vertually all my adult life.sometimes in an average day, some people are abrupt, cold, stand offish, non accepting of me, aloof, exchange glances, and seem to be deliberatly making me feel like an outcast..supermarket workers, cafe workers, store cashiers ...authority figures..this reinforces my paranoia im being socially ostracised.i feel society....the local community has a negative perception of me which, just the thought they have makes me feel incredablly angry.i feel deliberatly shut out of society.....like im stigmatised, like a lot of people know about my past....rage episodes....my background etc..i feel vilified by people who used to victimise me years back.i feel people in the community remember my countless ragew outburst or im somehow stigmatised and labelled in other ways..otherwise, why are people so aloof, and stand offish from me and seem to distance themselves from me ???obviously i struggle with aloofness myself, and im very wary and guarded towards people......but no one can blame me for that considering everything i have had to go through....in spite of my crap life ive had to endure, and my past, and history and possible stigma surrounding me im still going on....making progress with my rage.....have the odd setback with anger showing but on the whole ive done well.im trying to be positive and work towards future goals of a good paid job and to move away from england to live near the quiet coast somewhere....to live a peaceful life..im 30 now and obviously missed out a great deal on everything..i need treatment for my injured ankle and torn ankle ligaments, i have to watch how i walk, or else i can go over.....it is very weak......its depressing to because with it i feel like a cripple.the skin on the head of my penis is all cracked and teared, covering the head.....so im waiting to hear from a dermatologist about that.so theres alot of things causing me insecurity and anxiety at the moment.and ontop of that, when i go outside....or i browse myspace, in england at female profiles or other countries in myspace i see beaming happy grins.....like everyones happy....oblivious to my life of torment and torture..flirty, wide grinned, rosy cheeked, fair haired grins and i feel incredablly angry at that clenched teeth because ive missed out all my life at starting from scratch at 30, on my own in a small flat.how do i handle this ?because i feel angry and jealous toward those happy people and want to take it out on themi know that its wrong to feel that way thats why im asking for helpwith all this in mind, ive always suffered extreme low self worth......and always been rejected.........never formed any relationships in life so far and im 30 now..theres people on myspace and on my messenger lists.......and people whove reached out to me through this site.but im scared to contact them incase they find out about my true character.....the reality of my living circumstances and they back away and reject me.im so terrified of this as i always have been, and yet it always happened.theres this russian girl who i spoke to twice, i added her to my messenger...she semed pleasant...interested....but im scared to go back and contact her again....because she might find out my true life....or i might have to tell her the truth of my life and she might then reject me.and i would be devastated and hate to lose her.....i take rejection so bad and devastating....how do i get over this life long fear ?especially if you started to like someone and dont want to lose them.for example iam scared to talk to anyone on myspace or my messenger lists incase they find out all these realities about me then they reject me..do you see ?so because the fear is to strong, i stay away...people think im not interested or ignoring them.....then i lose them anyway.how can i beat this finally ?i always cause rejection to happen and i think loneliness , insecurity, isolation ' drives ' my behaviour. living alone etc..with girls i expect more from them than they want to give right at the very beggining, get all ' clingy ' , then understandablly this drives them away and causes them to reject me.i always seem to act this way and im stuck to know how to be different, soon as i talk to a person especiall a female, i display these behaviours then they reject me and back off.i have extreme low self worth.
I have an irrational fear of dogs that I've had my whole life. What should I do?
Please don't joke im serious
Teen depression, i have a fear of hurricanes that is starting to take over my life and i need advice! please..?
help me,i had to evacuate for Katriana, and i stayed at my uncle's house for 4 weeks total, i went for 2 weeks came back but the lights were still off the house was damaged so we went back for another two weeks because of my asthma made it impossible for me to stay here, but my step dad stayed and fixed everything, but it took me two and a half years to be able to watch the weather during that season, then a year and a few after i started that Gustav came and we had to do it all over again it feels like even though i still have my mom and step dad and friends i'm still loosing everything my sister was murdered after Katrina she went alittle off track after the storm and it just finally took her a year ago now her kids are with there dad who doesn't take care of them and wont even let me see them because his new wife dosent like me because i'm white. my pets picked up an illness from the gustav evac and now there slowing going, we dont have flood insurance to recover so if something does happen we could start over, we'd just live with my uncle and i cant do that we don't get along at all for a very privet issue but i just wanna say i'm not being whiny when i say i cant do that. people say that it's not my problem to worry about and i need to stop. but i dont understand how is it not my problem? this is my life, my roots are here, i have everything here, and most importantly i am my own person i cant just follow some1 else's lead, like my mom she wont listen to me she'd rather turn her head and pretend that it's not happing it's what she does to get over things, my step dad is the same way. my friends say i need help, but i cant get the help i need, i cant get away from this feeling, and before someone says " pray" i dont believe in that, i prayed for years to keep my sis safe and look where that got us she's now six feet under, i prayed for her kids and well that got them a abusive dad and step mom, i need real help, please,
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